Beauty is her name…

My precious ladies, you are worthy of being in love and being loved.  However, my advice is to get a handle on your personal and emotional issues before entering into a relationship.  It is unfair to give someone the “job” of loving you- when you don’t love yourself.

Before making it official with your boyfriend/fiancé/husband, you should already:

  • have a clear sense of your self-identity
  • know the value of your self-worth
  • be comfortable in your own skin – regardless of your size. (Trust me when I tell you, confidence is sexy!)

selfloveIn my opinion, failure to work on yourself first will cause you to put unnecessary strain on the relationship and also unrealistic expectations on your significant other.  Besides, their job is to love you, not complete you.  Can you imagine the burden this would cause the relationship if you are constantly picking apart your body while trying to fit society’s mold of beauty?  For example, he says you’re “the most beautifullest thing in this world” (Keith Murray’s voice).  Instead of giving him a wink and the biggest hug, you tug on your tummy in disbelief.  You can’t expect your guy to convince you of how pretty you are – if you don’t already believe it.  You need to know it AND own it!  From personal experience, these insecurities aren’t going away just because you ignore them…and you may even run him away in the process.

Also, get rid of the scales for goodness sakes because way too much emphasis is put on it.  Too many women are obsessing over how much they weigh, counting calories, dieting, liposuction, buying “cakes”, boobs, etc. only to find that none of these things can meet your personal and emotional needs.

In closing dear hearts get to the ROOT of the problem by digging deep and above all LOVE YO SELF…because that is what truly makes a woman beautiful…xxx Nij

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2 thoughts on “Beauty is her name…

  1. stacibrown2010 says:

    I love this ❤ For years I’ve struggled with self love and self acceptance. I’ve been overweight for almost my entire life. Everyday is still a struggle but I’m making strides to better loving the woman I see in the mirror and doing away with the scale.

    • That’s awesome to hear Staci. Thank you so much for reading and commenting. Moreover, I love that you are coming to love the woman you see in the mirror – that is POWERFUL and one of the best things a woman can do…love herself bountifully and unapologetically. ❤ Cheers to a lifetime of self love!

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