My precious ladies, you are worthy of being in love and being loved. However, my advice is to get a handle on your personal and emotional issues before entering into a relationship. It is unfair to give someone the “job” of loving you- when you don’t love yourself.
Before making it official with your boyfriend/fiancé/husband, you should already:
- have a clear sense of your self-identity
- know the value of your self-worth
- be comfortable in your own skin – regardless of your size. (Trust me when I tell you, confidence is sexy!)
In my opinion, failure to work on yourself first will cause you to put unnecessary strain on the relationship and also unrealistic expectations on your significant other. Besides, their job is to love you, not complete you. Can you imagine the burden this would cause the relationship if you are constantly picking apart your body while trying to fit society’s mold of beauty? For example, he says you’re “the most beautifullest thing in this world” (Keith Murray’s voice). Instead of giving him a wink and the biggest hug, you tug on your tummy in disbelief. You can’t expect your guy to convince you of how pretty you are – if you don’t already believe it. You need to know it AND own it! From personal experience, these insecurities aren’t going away just because you ignore them…and you may even run him away in the process.
Also, get rid of the scales for goodness sakes because way too much emphasis is put on it. Too many women are obsessing over how much they weigh, counting calories, dieting, liposuction, buying “cakes”, boobs, etc. only to find that none of these things can meet your personal and emotional needs.
In closing dear hearts get to the ROOT of the problem by digging deep and above all LOVE YO SELF…because that is what truly makes a woman beautiful…xxx Nij